I imagine everyone reading this can agree that Love is central to our lives. This is certainly true of our personal loves; our significant others, family and friends (two and four legged) and all the aspects of life we cherish, care for and hold most dear. It is also true of that larger idea of LOVE, what we think of as Divine Love, that notion that we are Love at our deepest spiritual core, that Love is a transcendent force that creates, animates and always underlies our reality and our being. This is an aspect of love we may not have much experience of and therefore may doubt. While we may intellectually accept this idea of love, or take it as an article of faith, we may still find it difficult to personally embrace and live by. But for most of us the hardest type of love to truly practice is Self- Love, and that is what I want to talk about today.
Most of us have a lot of negative conditioning around the idea of Self-Love. What does it even mean to love ourselves? We are taught that to put ourselves first is selfish, that having a high regard for ourselves is arrogant, even narcissistic, that being self-centered is bad. But we are not taught what is really means to love ourselves in a healthy way. We are taught to love others, but we often don’t realize that learning to truly love ourselves creates a strong foundation from which we can love others even more fully and completely.
If we think about it, showing love to ourselves is really no different from the ways we show love to another person. When we love another person, we want to do kind things for them, bring them joy, support them and celebrate them. We want to spend meaningful time with them, give them attention and respect. What if we were to do this with ourselves first and foremost?
One thing about love is that the more of it you give, the more you receive. But who said we should take ourselves out of that equation? I find the more love we give to ourselves the more love we have to give to others.
So again, what does this look like? We are not talking about self-indulgence here. We are taking about giving ourselves the same things we would choose to give to a loved one. Trust and acceptance, guality time, attention to our needs, good healthy food, activities that bring us pleasure, joy and fulfullment.
If we can truly expand our notion of love, we will see that we are central to the equation, that to practice loving others fully, we must also practice loving ourselves in equal measure. I use the word practice explicitly, for love is, more than an emotion, more than an internal spiritual state, a practice, or practical way of living and being. This certainly involves choosing to act from kindness towards ourselves, letting go of self-judgement. It involves choices like prioritizing self care and time to do those things that bring us joy and satisfaction. But first and foremost, this love is an attitude and a frequency, a vibration that we can choose to cultivate in ourselves.
From a vibrational perspective, when we are truly in the Vibration of Love, there is no me vs. them, no real separation between self-love and loving the ‘other’. We are just in that State of Love. So if we start with ourselves, and bring ourselves into the vibration of love, we will naturally share that frequency with others. We will also attract more of it into our lives as like attracts like. There are many ways to do this, and working with the Resonance Alchemy syllables is one of the surest and most direct (In my humble opinion;-)
While all of the Syllables we use in Resonance alchemy are based in an energy of unity and love, there are some that specifically create a frequency of Love that the Heart resonates with and instinctively recognizes. Which one speaks most to you? Which one does your Heart resonate with right now? Maybe you will choose all of them. This Valentine's Day, take a few moments to yourself to focus on your heart area and silently repeat these syllables. Give yourself a little love on this special day and make bringing more love into your life a regular practice!
KRI AM DOR KA BA LA - the Sovereign, or Christed Heart
KRI LEI AMMA - the frequency of Unconditional Love, the core of the Heart Chakra
KRI AM BA AMORE TUR - Divine Love,
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